I hadn’t seen grandma in a while. Since her Alzheimer’s forced us to put her in a nursing home by my aunt 45 minutes away, it has been more difficult to see her. My brother and I had been talking and discovered we both had similar dreams about her dying and not being able to say goodbye, so we decided to spend a monday night going to see her.
As spunky as ever, we found grandma alone in the living room area trying to figure out how to turn the tv on to watch I Love Lucy. Her face was tense with determination, and she unwillingly was pushed back to her private room to visit with us. Her focus quickly changed since she can’t remember from one minute to the next and we had some great laughs that night. Her common phrases are, “Tell me everything you know.” ”Write that down for me somewhere.” “Are you married?" "Do you have a husband?” “Where do I belong?”
While her confusion is apparent and she forgets of our visit minutes after we leave, she is always persistent on telling us to come visit again real soon and how wonderful it was to see us. Grandmas personality, character, and spirit are things I have always admired. Always looking for the positive- a true Pollyanna.
And while she may be confused and is unable to comprehend what a computer is, internet, video camera, or how to turn a tv on, she knows what is important. I wish now, that as a child I would have taken advantage of the numerous opportunities I had to ask her more questions. While she is still able to remember quite a bit from the far past, the family will now learn more about her by reading her journals from childhood. As we talk now though, most often we will repeat the same conversation multiple times. Every now and then she will say something that sticks out to me. “Sometimes we just don’t know whats important,” she stated. I thought about how true that statement is. How often do I rush through life not appreciating God’s beautiful creation, people, my health, job, and friends. I only take notice of the negative and differences between myself and others, not appreciating those differences and how God made us all unique. But lastly, how often have I taken forgranted the time I have to learn from my grandma who is still older and wiser.
|Grandma 20 years ago|